Provider manifesto

Worth

It is revolutionary labour to believe in the worth of our own truth and desires. As a provider, I support clients in strengthening and deepening their embodiment and self concept, moving them towards a position of believing in their innate worth.

Collaboration

Pursuing fulfillment of desires and needs often requires participation of others. Collaboration is a key component to doing this work, at multiple levels. As a provider, I enter into collaboration with other providers who are aware of and demonstratively respectful of my needs and desires. As a provider, I support clients to establish, deepen, maintain, and otherwise improve their connections to others through development of skills and practices including embodied awareness, communication, and boundaries.

Limitation

Honest awareness and clear communication of constraints (such as time, emotional bandwidth, space, etc) allow for relationships where trust, interdependence, accommodation, boundaries, and fair discernment are built.

Part of what allows me to maintain a sense of my own limitations is making sure that I am considering the variety of priorities in my life. My family & community relationships are important to me, as are my professional responsibilities, personal care, and my relationships to the land and water. With that sense of clarity, I strive to communicate with clarity and compassion for both myself and those I am in connection with.

As a provider, I aim to maintain a professional network of referral options including adjacent specialities like full service sex workers and therapists to whom I can connect clients when their desires or needs are beyond or divergent from my capacities. As a provider, I help clients build awareness of their limitations, as well as skills and practice in embodied discernment and personal advocacy for accommodation.

Growth

Every day our cells are dying and being replaced; nothing alive is stagnant, and all paces and directions of growth are valid. As a provider, I work with clients to grow into their truest, embodied selves; shedding outdated stories and culturally assigned expectations. I help clients to grow beyond sticking points and break cycles of shame.

Trust

Creating embodied trust can be slow and precarious. As a provider, I build trust with clients by following their nervous system’s pace and I support them in the process of learning to do the same for themselves.

The below collection of personal declarations came through me like a channeling in the week following giving birth. I used this as a base from which to write the above practice manifesto:

• I need to know what I want so that my situation isn’t steamrolled by the clearer demands of others. It is OK for me to require time space solitude support and process to clarify and tune into my needs. It is my responsibility to do this labour.
• I need my subconscious vibrations to be in alignment with my desires- believing that I can be worthy of my own truth and desire.
• I need the people that I welcome into roles of close collaboration (home/projects/family/emotional intimacy) to be aware of and in tune with me. To deeply listen to me and respect my autonomy.
• I need to have a balance of home and outside home projects to feel engaged and invested in a variety of things that both challenge and nourish me. I need the process of taking on projects to be attuned to a sense of actual capacity rather than ‘best case scenario’ optimism or dependence on others who may not legitimately have earned that trust.
• I need to be allowed and encouraged by the people around me to grow into my most powerful self. I need to actively dismiss outdate and toxic stories that lock me into my own blocks, challenges and traumas.
• I need to be able to accept love and support when offered without fearing motives of control or manipulation. Offering trust to those operating from control driven patterns degrades my ability to do that.