Consent at the very center of this work

You are the boss of your own body, and your participation in any activity, practice, ritual or experiment is yours to decide and determine. Most of us carry legacies of dominator culture in the ways that we experience our bodies. We were trained as very young children to not notice, notice less or become spiritually vacant from our bodies while experiencing things that we had very little agency over.

The felt experience of children has typically been given very little space in how our society orders itself, and as a result, we learn to be in discomfort in our bodies through a variety of ‘disembodiments’. In order to find our ways back into our bodies, we must learn our agency.

Learning that we are the bosses of our own body is not just something that we can learn intellectually and know. Learning the consent that makes this work possible starts with our relationship to ourself, everything that is offered with Soft Touch Bodies is an invitation.

Getting to know what no feels like in your body, practicing communicating boundaries and requests in a dedicated practice container, these things happen over time and are woven into everything that we do as a practice.

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